Everything started with a gently guy that was
the owner of the Airbnb flat that we've rented. We just arrived in the train
station and we would need to walk about 40min to arrive in the flat, but this
guy just offered to pick us up and drive us there. That was my first good
impression how friendly and helpful Czech can be in "local" cities.
I'm talking about
local city, because this was the first non touristic city in Czech Republic
that I've stayed, for overnight staying. I planned to stop there, because the
location in the way to the Balkans and interested in knowing an unknown city.
Once I've said before, I use to choose cities that I'll travel just looking
where it geographically is located and see if it's viable to go there.
The girls agreed to
come with me, and then it became real. Our guy just picked us up and drove us
to the place that we stayed. He was cool, friendly, but not a man with so many
words. Not talkative I mean, but sometimes you can feel someone by connection,
by energy, not necessarily by words.
Once we were in the
flat I seriously was impressed the difference from outside to inside. Basically
from outside it looked like ruins and we weren't sure if the pictures that we
saw online looked like the flat in the real life. But surprisingly it was
big renewed flat from inside. Thing that we needed actually need, but it
was the cheapest place that we could find, once Couchsurfing didn't work.
The idea was really
interesting in fact. It's something like that you have such a great place to
live, but nobody knows that. I seriously liked the idea that makes we feel and
think that the good things that we have, we don't need to share it with
everyone as a prize.
I'm talking about
everything, from a nice house or your new brand car that normally you don't
even need it. Think about a sportive car in a city with a lot traffic jam, or a
house with 5 rooms for a family with 3 people.
In fact it just
starts in your Facebook picture or your instagram picture that you're sharing
with other while you're having a coffee in a nice cafe in Paris having your cappuccino
with few hashtags with motivation words combined in different languages. Maybe
saying to the "world" how happy, sad, frustrated, thoughtful, amazed
or however you think that you're feeling.
Put me in a
contradiction, I've done it so many times that I can't count and I still do it
sometimes. I assume it and I understand it. I'm not "cured" yet from
the social media illness, but at least I know that I'm sick and I'm trying to
cure myself little by little.
One day I was
watching myself sharing ”my life” with people that I don't even know 20% of
them, probably just 5% of them know where I live. I believe that from 1424
Facebook friends, I just talk daily with 5 of them, weekly maybe 25, monthly
maybe 50. What I'm saying is that about 3% of my friends have monthly
conversations with me. The fact that I'm keeping sharing posts that I don't
contribute positively for none of these sides, the one that's posting and the
one that's seeing it. It makes no sense in what we are doing. Cool, you some
get 100 likes from your cappuccino picture, some people are going to admire you
for 5s of their life and your life bar was refilled.
I basically stopped
to share my personal life in Facebook since October of 2017. I could feel that
these likes of my pictures wasn't giving any positive value. In fact for me
stop to update my personal life to people that didn't really care about me,
made see who was the ones that really cared, the ones that asking sometimes how
I'm doing.
I'm still using
Instagram, less often than before, but still using. What changed with me as
well, that I don't really feel comfortable doing selfies as before, in fact I
don't know how to smile for a picture. I could deeply see my fake smile in some
pictures. One day I went to check some pictures in the Instagram and I swear,
from so many self-pictures of "my friends", I could barely see a
genuine smile. In that moment I saw our faces are trying to show to the world
something doesn't really show who we are.
Selling happy
moments when we were feeling frustrated and sad. Trying to show our successful
married or relationship is and the fact we hate each other. Showing some prizes
to the world just to collect hundreds likes and change instantaneity our mood.
Showing your new car that most of your friends wouldn't have the chance to buy,
taking a selfie in the mirror with your new Iphone X, making the marketing of
famous brands to show how you fit well in the society, showing that you had
enough money to buy a expensive meal in a fancy restaurant or holding a 15
euros Gin and Tonic in a club that you can't really afford to buy it. I don't
know if you ever think about how these likes changed your life.
I'm not against to
social medias. They are great to be a platform to share information and ideas
like I'm doing it now. Without social medias you would never be able my reach
my articles, I would never be able to share my mind with you.
I'm just saying
that as the house that I stayed in České Budějovice, we don't need to
share everything with everyone and in a worse situation showing to be someone
that we really are not. Changing our realities from our real life to a virtual
one.
Dude, I'm still
using social medias, but what I'm sharing with you is exactly what's coming to
my mind now.
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